"BJ" (benjamin-bignell)
02/17/2018 at 20:44 • Filed to: None
0
12|
"BJ" (benjamin-bignell)
02/17/2018 at 20:44 • Filed to: None | 0
| 12 |
Personal content inside. Buffer image for your safety.
Listening in, sounds great. I even have a ticket. Too bad I get too anxious to sit through more than 5 songs. Tight chest, laboured breathing, general overall discomfort...
This is the second time, but it’s much less severe than last time. I get settled in, in the middle of a row, and I just can’t relax. Maybe I feel trapped. Maybe I’m so nervous about not feeling well and ruining my wife’s evening that I end up actually not feeling well and ruining my wife’s evening.
I tried visualising being elsewhere. I tried deep breathing. I tried telling myself to just knock it off.
I just want to go home. Aaaaaargh! The music’s great and I’d love to go back in and sit with my wife.
Fuck.
ToyotaFamily
> BJ
02/17/2018 at 21:02 |
|
I felt the same way last year when I went to my second concert.
It was odd because I usually don’t feel claustrophobic or anxious in similar places.
ADabOfOppo; Gone Plaid (Instructables Can Be Confusable)
> BJ
02/17/2018 at 21:04 |
|
I empathize. I am currently stuck in a movie theater lobby while my wife gets to watch Black Panther.
Fucking food allergies.
MrDakka
> BJ
02/17/2018 at 21:47 |
|
Have you tried nerve tonics?
Daily Drives a Dragon - One Last Lap
> ADabOfOppo; Gone Plaid (Instructables Can Be Confusable)
02/17/2018 at 22:22 |
|
I feel you there. I hadn’t had a reaction in a while until DQ gave me the wrong blizzard. The DQ is near where I commute to every day. Let’s just say my 25 minute commute was done in 15.
|
ADabOfOppo; Gone Plaid (Instructables Can Be Confusable)
> Daily Drives a Dragon - One Last Lap
02/17/2018 at 22:28 |
|
That nod men give to each other when they have faced a great trial together and need not speak of it.
My citroen won't start
> BJ
02/17/2018 at 22:55 |
|
This is me anywhere there is loud music, too many people and or low roofs.
ttyymmnn
> BJ
02/17/2018 at 23:18 |
|
I used to have very serious problems with performance anxiety, which, as a professional musician, is no fun. I had instances where I was so nervous and my mouth so dry that I simply couldn’t play. I tried beta blockers, but they were no help. So my doctor prescribed Alprazolam (Xanax). They changed my life. I still got nervous, but not debilitatingly so. And once I got over the yips, I was able to stop taking them. But I keep them in my bag, and just having them there gives me confidence. I would suggest you talk to your doctor about it. I would have loved to have found a way through without drugs, but the drugs helped, and now I don’t need them. Good luck.
dsigned001 - O.R.C. hunter
> MrDakka
02/17/2018 at 23:23 |
|
Seems like a recipe for ruining the night another way
OPPOsaurus WRX
> BJ
02/17/2018 at 23:23 |
|
It might not be the same but I felt kinda awkward about going to a father-daughter dance. I got there knew no one (obviously but my daughter) but realized every other guy there was in the same position and was able to relax
|
BJ
> ToyotaFamily
02/18/2018 at 13:16 |
|
I’m not afraid of crowds, and taking the metro (subway) even when it’s packed full is no problem. I think it’s a combination of stress and past minor bad experiences.
I really dislike being in the middle of a row. I feel stuck. Movie theatres are different, maybe because they’re relatively spacious.
|
BJ
> ttyymmnn
02/18/2018 at 13:23 |
|
I’ve had anxiety in the past and it usually goes away when other stresses in my life are taken away. I’m 3 days from a major project wrapping up at work, after 18 months - the last 9 of which were very rough. This is a big factor. I’ve essentially worked myself sick.
Believe it or not, I used to have bad anxiety about the drive home from my in-laws... we generally overeat when we’re there and the traffic home on a Sunday afternoon is always rough, so I’d get uncomfortable in the car and then I’d get stressed out. It didn’t help that everyone else fell asleep and left me alone with my thoughts! That lasted years, but it’s fine now.
I see my doctor in a couple of weeks, so I’ll mention it, but I’m not in a situation where I’m unable to function at home or work, so I won’t be jumping to meds right away. But I do appreciate the feedback and understand how having a safety net can make us feel stronger.
|
BJ
> MrDakka
02/18/2018 at 13:25 |
|
Ha, this is an option, to be used with care!
We had to drive home, so it wasn’t possible this time.